How to control your anger
I’m a person that used to get angry easily. Angry was a normal feeling in my life. However, one day, I realized that it was a bad thing not just for me but also for my wife, family, and at work because when I was angry, I would explode and say things that hurt everybody, and once I calmed down, I would regret it.
But how could I start to control my anger? I had no idea. So I searched and found an online course that taught me how to control my anger. I’m not saying that I don’t get angry anymore, but it definitely helped me to be more in control of my feelings and more frequently.
Here is a list of things that I learned and helps me:
- There’re types of anger and strategies for each of them. You’ve to realize which one is your main one and learn what strategy you can apply;
- Nobody makes you angry. It’s your interpretation of what the other person is saying that makes you angry;
- Your reaction is based on your past and your previous experiences. Maybe it’s triggering a trauma on you, or you may be misinterpreting the other person;
- My feelings are caused by what? My thoughts. Learn how to use it in your favor;
- The easiest way to understand anger is that it is a disintegrative/destructive energy. This is not good for you;
- Proactively try to create states of relaxation and peace;
- What do most people do when faced with painful emotions? Distract themselves and suppress them. It would be best if you never did this. You’ve to be aware of those feelings and deal with them. You can’t try to suppress them. It’ll be worse, and you’ll probably explode them sometime in the future;
- The first step to control how you feel is by acceptance of what you are feeling;
- You can write the triggers and what was your thought were at the moment that happened and later understood your patterns of becoming angry;
- If you’re unable to control yourself, it’s ok to excuse yourself and come back later when you’re more in control. It’s better than saying or doing things that you might regret.
All of this gave me a new perspective on anger and helped me deal with this issue. I hope this article can help you too.
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